In the Name
of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Economical
Marriage
By
Irshad Mahmood – Director, Siraat-al-Mustaqeem Dawah Centre
Marriage is not just a
union of a man
and a woman rather it is union of two families. We learn from each
other and move forward and try to make our small world Heavenly Likely.
Do
not expect from a Doctor women to make round roti / chapatti / bread,
instead help her to help humanity. Working women deserve
to share their workload from their spouse/relatives for housekeeping
with true love.
Quraan directs to have
simplicity in all aspects of life including Marriage. Always keep in
mind that the Top Most
Priority Allah put on us is Saving a Life is like Saving the
Whole World,
(Ref. Al_Quraan_005.032). Make sure to keep your marriage ceremony very
simple as directed by the Quraan, NO Racing on Big Functions, NO
Showoff (NOT like winning a battle by capturing the bride as a slave).
Help the needy by all means if you can.
In Islaam, marriage is a
blessed
permanent contract between a man and a woman for the whole life, in
which each becomes “permitted” to the other, and they begin the long
journey of life in a spirit of love, cooperation, harmony and
tolerance, where each feels at ease with the other, and finds
tranquility, contentment and comfort in the company of the other. The
Quraan has described this relationship between men and women, which
brings love, mercy, harmony, tranquility, trust, understanding,
co-operation, mutual advise, compassion establish a Muslim Family, in
the most moving and eloquent terms, (Ref: Al_Quraan_030:021).
Marriage
in Economic Downturn in the light of the Quraan for Exceptional Cases:
Now during worse Global
Economic Downturn where rich are becoming super rich and poor are
becoming super poor and where 1%
are extreme riches and 99%
are
extreme poor, it is becoming hard for an ordinary person to get marry.
In this situation women are allowed to work, but still men must have to
pay the dowries to their wives at the time of marriage and practically
support her for maintaining house work as well. We must come forward to
help poor to get marry, (Ref: Al_Quraan_024:032). We must reduce our
budget, with NO showoff, NO racing of big parties including on
marriages etc. Remember:
If
people are left without marriage then there are wide chances to
increase in illegal sexuality which includes adultery/rape and
homosexuality etc.
Purpose of marriage is to obey
Allah, protect themselves from illegal sex, and to have loving family
for whole life etc., (Ref: Al_Quraan_005:005, 066:006). Remember:
Educated men are
for educated women, (Ref: Al_Quraan_033:035,
039:009).
Witness
Required for Marriage in the Quraan:
Minimum witnesses
required for
marriage are two witnesses i.e., one from each side in the Quraan,
since at the time of breach between two if arises, it is also required
to have two councilors, and that is one of the main reason to have
consent with parents/guardians at the time of marriage, (Ref:
Al_Quraan_004.025, 004.035). The
Quraan also demands for announcements for it to avoid
consequences/conspiracies, which can be through modern media as well
e.g. emails, phones, etc., and make sure that it is a respected
announcement, BUT be careful from social media on sharing
photos/videos. Marriage can be done in the court as well, especially
when any country has some law to protect men and women in marital
relationship. Idea of Witnesses can also be taken from the Quraan for
ordinary transactions where two men are required for witnesses and if
two men are not available then one man and two women (NOT four women)
and since BIG huge lifelong changes are happening and lives are
involved, Witnesses are necessary (Ref: 002.282, 005.008).
One
of the Major Conditions for an Islaamic Marriage is Man giving Dowries
to Women:
And give women their DOWRIES
as a free gift, but if they of themselves be pleased to give up to you
a portion of it, then eat it with enjoyment and with wholesome result,
(Al_Quraan_004.004).
It is advised to pay 3 -
4 months of
ones income at the time of your wedding for an average earning income
man while those who are rich may pay much higher up to one year of
income, so that it is not too little that there is no value to afford
to live for a person for at least 3 - 4 months without depending on
others. For those who are very poor, may pay dowry to wife whatever
they can afford upon mutual understanding, (Concepts of 3 - 4 months
and one year are taken from Al_Quraan_002:228, 002:234, 002:240,
004.025).
Responsibilities
on Rich Person and Governments to help those who cannot afford to marry:
It is responsibilities
on every
Government as well as on those who are Rich to help those who cannot
afford to get marry. They must help the needy to educate/upgrade their
skills to find better jobs, since now a days even for doing labor jobs,
you might need to get training of tools e.g., folk lifting etc., (Ref:
Al_Quraan_024:032-033).
Suggestion for those who cannot
afford to marry:
No matter
what, be patient,
keep remembering Allah and try to do more good acts, as well as more
fasting etc., till you can afford to get marry. Try to educate/upgrade
yourself to find better jobs, since now a days even for doing labor
jobs, you might need to get training of tools e.g., folk lifting etc.,
(Ref: Al_Quraan_024:032-033).
Please
download MarriageCounseling.pdf and distribute to all
http://www.global-right-path.com/Downloads/MarriageCounseling.pdf